It has been a rough semester with all of the changes and adjustments that we are making, but we are pulling through. Gavin struggles with not getting enough time with Mom and Dad and Ella does too. It is rough because I do not see them on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday! I go to work and then to the library and don't get home until after they go to bed. Andy is overworked at home and is exhausted, but he is incredible.
We started having "talk time" with Gavin where one of us spends 15 minutes just hanging out with him and chatting. Catching up on his life, friends, school or the latest book that he is reading. He is responding well to this and I am loving the time to connect. I think that after I am done with classes, we will make this a nightly thing and trade off kids so that each one gets some one on one time with each parent EVERY day. If I don't have 10 minutes to devote myself to one of my children every day, I really need to get my priorities straightened out. They used to get some one on one during bath time, but they both shower independently nowadays.. so we lost that. I think that we are on to something good here!
We have made time to do some things together... we have been having Friday Family Nights still and have gone out to dinner, ice cream, done crafts, made cookies, watched movies or played games. We are loving that! We also went to a play last weekend which was really neat! The next couple of weeks will be really rough for everyone because I am going to be at the library every night except for weekends when I will be working at home on my Lit Review. I keep reminding the kids that if I can get done before Thanksgiving I can hang out all weekend long. (I will take time to edit, but probably when they go to bed.)
We decided to go camping this year for Thanksgiving and I am beyond excited. My mother's side of the family is getting together in the mountains above San Diego. I have not celebrated Thanksgiving with this part of my family for a LONG time, and the kids never have! We are going to have a great time (and try not to freeze to death!)
I am at the library now, and took a break to post this update. I appreciate my friends and family who stick with me and support me and love me through it all. I could not do it without you! NOW... It is back to work!